SELF-PRESERVATION
I honestly think it’s hard to comfort a broken-hearted friend. Like soothing a mourning friend who lost a loved one to the hands of death, I am at loss for words; simply because I believe that sometimes words can’t be comforting at all.
In spite of the million condolences a bereaved person gets from strangers and friends, I don’t think words could actually take away whatever pain and loss someone is feeling.
When friends are broken-hearted, I am at loss for words. I know how it feels to be left hanging, miserable and rejected. I know how it feels to love unconditionally and be cheated and disrespected. It makes you wonder why love has to hurt. But really, does love have to hurt?
Love doesn’t have to hurt but most of the time it does. Getting hurt is beyond our control. Nobody wants to get hurt. But we end up getting hurt no matter what.
Point here is I think it’s best to have the decency to tell the truth rather than blatantly lie and break someone else’s heart.
If you know you can’t be with someone, why promise spending your life with her forever? If you’re just playing a stupid game, why fool someone into thinking that you’re serious about the relationship? If you’re freakin’ married and you can’t leave your wife, why lie? It’s a cowardly thing to do. Things like these ruin lives. Destroy people. People are eaten by hate and anger. They self-destruct.
Emotions are raw and real. So I wouldn’t say that it’s wrong to fall in-love with a married guy. What can you do? It’s how you feel. But when it starts hurting like hell, you have to let go. Love advices are not my cup of tea. I’m so messed up in the love department as well. But the thing is, I let go as soon as it hurts. I learned my lessons the hard way. If the guy’s not man enough to stick up for me, then there’s no point in holding on.
I call it self-preservation.
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